What Kind of Funeral to Have
Most of us avoid talking about our own dying day as that is considered taboo in our culture. But I've been thinking about it every now then, what if I were to die this moment? What’s going to happen? Who will see to my funeral? Will anyone turn up at my funeral?
Why all these ‘death’ thoughts at this age all of a sudden? Well, why not? Our journey towards death begins the moment we are born, so why not plan for it when we have the opportunity? And seriously, do we know when we’re going to die? Don’t think anyone does.
So what kind of funeral would I like to have? I’ve told several friends I would like to be cremated and my ashes scattered into the sea after I die. No need to pay for any premium space to keep my ashes because I doubt the value of my ashes will appreciate over time. I also think it’s not nice to stress relatives to come ‘visit’ my remains whenever it’s my death anniversary. Anyone who wants to remember me can just look at my pictures.
If it’s not too much trouble and not too expensive, I wouldn’t mind if someone contacted the Buddhist Fellowship and arranged for an English chanting service at my wake and funeral. That should be an eye-opener for me as well as for my neighbours in Tampines. In fact, I think it’ll be fun and may even draw a crowd!
Oh yes! Please do not burn expensive paper cars, houses, electrical appliances or electronic gadgets for me. I would not need them because I should be busy meditating. Hopefully I’m not so attached to blogging by then! Oh...I’m going to miss my iBook!
On the day of the funeral, please don’t play depressing, sob sob music. Imee Ooi’s ‘The Chant of Metta’ will be a good choice because it’s one of my favourite and it lasts a whole 26min and 49secs! Then again, my other favourite singer, Sarah Brightman’s ‘Time to Say Goodbye’ will also be quite appropriate right? I wouldn’t mind some loud music too by 五月天but will it disturb my neighbours?
What else should I be looking into...hmmm...?
to be continued...
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"The real does not die, the unreal never lived."
~ Nisargadatta Maharaj
posted by yeelee @ 10:18 pm
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4 Comments:
Somehow this song has stayed in my memory ever since teenagers days. When I read this post a few days ago, I had to go seach it out. Quite unusual for Liu Wen Zhen to sing this rather sad song about death. It's a really haunting song and I think it was from a movie but I can't remember which movie already.
歌
词：徐志摩 曲：罗大佑
当我死去的时候亲爱的别为我唱悲伤的歌
我坟上不必安插蔷薇 也无需浓荫的柏树
让盖着我的青青的草 淋着雨也沾着露珠
假如你愿意请记着我 要是你甘心忘了我
在悠久的昏幕中迷惘 阳光不升起也不消翳
我也许也许我记得你 我也许把你忘记
我再见不到地面的青荫觉不到雨露的甜蜜
再听不到夜莺的歌喉 在黑夜里倾吐悲啼
http://www.film101studio.com/bbs/topic.cgi?forum=1&topic=3094
gee...this was the same depressing song a friend mentioned when her boyfriend broke off with her during our NUS days!
now don't u dare play this during my funeral! i want something more hip, more funky and cheerful to celebrate the end of my suffering!
i will play some happy songs for you as you like it.
from the title, i felt a litte worried about what you were thinkng of?
however,i started to read it,and i found something interesting in it.lol
tacobee
you're the karaoke expert!
so please share good songs with me…ok?
^_^
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